• Essay,  Journal

    Roll With It

    Did you ever hear that if a drunk person falls down the stairs he or she will sustain far fewer injuries than a sober person?  The reason is that the drunk person is relaxed and therefore more flexible. The sober person, anticipating the fall, will brace him or herself for the fall. She will stiffen and tense up.  As a result, she will tear tight muscles, break bones, and be far more hurt by the fall than the drunk person. I’m not advocating drunkenness. Easy as that may sound as a solution, we all know the other drawbacks.  I am advocating for you to chill the fuck out.  Relax. Loosen…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Mindset,  Women

    Your Feminine Body

    This is quite possibly the most important essay on femininity I will ever write.  If you do the things I ask you to do in this post, it will begin to change your life, for the better, immediately. You probably won’t want to do these things. Not because they are hard or complicated, but because you will feel foolish. But I can assure you, the truly foolish will let your ego and pride get in the way of performing these exercises and following the direction of what I ask of you in this post.  The wise will participate. It’s your life. Are you an observer? No. Then read every word…

  • Essay,  Women

    Women Have a Deep Need for Security

    Women have a great need for security. It is part of our nature to seek security because we are naturally insecure.  On a survival level we have a subconscious awareness of our small size and weaker physical stature and seek protection. While our need for physical protection to compensate for our vulnerabilities that come from being smaller, pregnancy, frailty, etc may be obvious our need for emotional protection is controversial. Our natural instincts are to seek security because we are naturally insecure to a certain extent. This is not to say that we can not feel confident and secure or even that we can’t develop our own sense of security.…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Journal,  Mindset

    Fetch A Beer For Me, Will Ya?

    It was a hot summer day. I was enjoying the sun, friends, sand on my toes and a little music.  Just as I was beginning to shut my eyes to rest them from the bright sun and salt water, a man asked me to grab him a beer off the boat.  I got off my seat in the sand and waded out to the boat, climbed in and got that man a beer.  Happily. When I got back, another woman said, “I can’t believe you’d let him treat you like that. Like you’ll just fetch him what he needs.” “I’m happy to,” I said. And I left it at that…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Header Slider,  Social Conditioning

    Men Love Sex, Women Love Attention.

    There’s so much bitterness and resentment currently between the sexes.  Why? Because they simply don’t understand each other.  They want the other to be just like them.  The myth of marrying your best friend and equality and treat him/her how you want to be treated has completely confused the f*ck out of everyone. I’m not saying he can’t be your friend. But he’s not going to be like your girlfriend.  If you want a partner to shop with you and talk to you endlessly about what could or might happen “if” scenarios, then you want a partner who is a woman. He doesn’t want that.  Similarly guys, if you want…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    It’s Not You, It’s Him

    There are a lot of things to consider when you are dating and seeking a partner.  Most articles eagerly point out the obvious like “do you like him,” “are your lifestyles and values compatible?” One question women often overlook that lands them in miserable, unsatisfying relationships is probably more important than any of the others. Does he like women? I’m not talking about his sexual orientation.  I am talking about heterosexual, sexually active, professional, everyday men who just don’t “like” women. They want to have sex with women. But that’s not the same as “liking” women.  You’ve got to wonder (and verify with behavior) if he actually “likes” women. I…

  • Essay,  Mindset,  Women

    How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

    Ladies, One of your most alluring and valuable traits is your softness.  You may not always appreciate these traits in yourself and they may not always serve you, but they are beautiful and should be cherished and protected.  We need more softness in this world and women are the bearers of the softest joys. The way you can see both sides of an issue. They way you root for the underdog. The way you concede to end conflicts. The way your heart aches for the needy and less fortunate.  The way you desire to heal and care for others.  Yes, even the way you cry when you feel so much…

  • Attraction,  Essay

    Nice Guys, Bad Boys and Good Guys: A Breakdown

    Do you hear women talk about Nice Guys, Bad Boys and Good Guys? We settle for a Nice Guy, we let loose with a Bad Boy, but what we truly want is a Good Guy, and here’s why… Simple explanation of the difference between Nice Guys, Bad Boys and Good Guys Nice Guys Nice Guys only feel comfortable with the woman on the left, and while the one on the right turns him on, she intimidates the hell out of him. The women on the right exist for him in fantasy, porn, and strip clubs. While they excite him sexually, they threaten him intellectually. While he may not admit it,…