• blog,  Mindset,  Observations OMS

    Don’t Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

    If someone behaves badly and also drinks or takes drugs, there are support groups to help the people deal with their behavior.  They are encouraged not to enable their  behavior which may be outright harmful or subtly harmful and abusive because being mistreated builds up and everyone has a breaking point. If someone has a diagnosed, observable mental illness or  addiction that makes them mean, self-absorbed, causes them to steal or cheat, then they are dealt with and people understand that they are sick.  And again, the people in their lives have support groups and are given guidelines on how to minimize interactions and limit the ways that this person…

  • blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book

    Relationship Arson

    Are you committing Relationship Arson? Are you unhappy in your relationship and so instead of addressing the changes that need to be made in yourself or working to reignite the spark with your partner or going through the hard process of leaving and potentially being alone are you having an emotional or sexual affair with someone else? I’ve noticed sometimes people can’t muster the strength of will to make necessary changes in their life but they have an urgent need for change. So instead of moving out piece by piece and leaving the house (or their partner) in tact for the next occupant, they burn the whole house down. Only…