• Fiction,  flash fiction,  Header Slider

    Sensual Anarchy

    Your love is so cold and clothed.  Your brutal indifference.  I’m bringing needy back.  It’s become such a curse, it’s a shame, to need someone. Why!? We want to be needed but we don’t want to need. Vulnerability is a dirty feeling, like insecurity and failure. No one will admit to disappointment. No one wants their imperfections shown. What a waste! Who will step forward and say, “I need something. I need you. I am confused and helpless at times and you heal me. It’s you! It’s you that I need!” Everyone and their no fucks given. There’s no appeal in that for me.  I have lots of fucks to give.…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Mindset,  Women

    Ladies, Embrace Your Sexuality Damn it!

    Ladies, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend recently of men knowing women’s bodies better than women do. Women are not taking charge of their own sexuality. For all the talk about empowerment and abandoning shame, it seems that female sexual desire is still misunderstood at best and at worst denied and repressed. Our mothers shepherded society through the sexual revolution giving us more control of our bodies and our sex lives.  I love that we are able to talk about sex more openly and I love that so many of you are enjoying it and feeling as if you have a right to do it whenever and with whoever you want.  You…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Essay,  Mindset

    Emotional Stability Will Ruin Your Relationship

    Despite all the Martha Stewarts of dating who would like you to believe that the holy grail of a healthy relationship is emotional stability: It’s not. A preoccupation with emotional stability, yours and your partners, will ruin your relationship.  Lazy thinking causes people to think in binary opposition. They posit; “Emotional instability is bad, so emotional stability must be good.” Then someone goes off and writes an article or a book about the virtues of emotional stability simply by comparing it to toxic, abusive, immature, selfish, and downright crazy emotional instability makes some money, talks to Ellen and boom! Suddenly no one wants to be labeled as emotionally unstable and…

  • Fiction,  flash fiction

    Peppermint Kisses

    His beard had grown longer and was speckled with grey hairs.  His skin was tan, his arms swollen with muscles from long days working outside.  I got to look in his light blue eyes again.  He looked back at me intently, a smile curling up on his lips. “You’ve been gone so long I thought I’d never hear from you again.” I said. He put his hand on the back of my neck and stared at me. I was determined not to cry but I felt the trembling of my eyes and lips.  I was angry. I was accusing. I wanted to be indifferent. How could I let him come and go like this?…

  • blog,  Essay,  Life Lessons,  Mindset

    A Deep Need for Excitement In All Of Us

    Our lifestyles set us up for repetition, redundancy, disappointment. We fear risk and rejection and as a result we suffer from lack of excitement. Our need for excitement as real to our bodies and our health as  healthy food and water.   A lack of excitement will leave us run down, confused, lethargic and sick like a vitamin deficiency. So we will seek it out subconsciously and suffer emotional, even physical, consequences if we don’t have any or enough of it. So, when we do not know how to create healthy excitement in our lives, we settle for whatever we can get. We are hungry for food but we settle for…

  • blog,  Dating Advice,  Essay,  Life Lessons,  Mindset

    All or Nothing!

    So in business there’s the “cost of doing business.” It’s not your standard operating costs, overhead, investments that we consider a loss. It’s investing in ideas that don’t pan out, employees that bail after being trained or clients that quit you. There’s the cost to throwing your hat in the ring when the standard award rate is one in three. You lose all the money, sweat and tears spent on two-thirds of your bids and that’s just your cost of doing business. We shrug and accept it. It’s so obvious that no one will argue it. So what’s the cost of dating? For men there’s the cost of dinner, washing…