• blog,  Essay,  Feminism,  Mindset

    Fetch A Beer For Me, Will Ya?

    It was a hot summer day. I was enjoying the sun, friends, sand on my toes and a little music.  Just as I was beginning to shut my eyes to rest them from the bright sun and salt water, a man asked me to grab him a beer off the boat.  I got off my seat in the sand and waded out to the boat, climbed in and got that man a beer.  Happily. When I got back, another woman said, “I can’t believe you’d let him treat you like that. Like you’ll just fetch him what he needs.” “I’m happy to,” I said. And I left it at that…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Header Slider,  Love is Blind Book,  Observations on my Species Book,  Social Conditioning

    Men Love Sex, Women Love Attention.

    There’s so much bitterness and resentment currently between the sexes.  Why? Because they simply don’t understand each other.  They want the other to be just like them.  The myth of marrying your best friend and equality and treat him/her how you want to be treated has completely confused the f*ck out of everyone. I’m not saying he can’t be your friend. But he’s not going to be like your girlfriend.  If you want a partner to shop with you and talk to you endlessly about what could or might happen “if” scenarios, then you want a partner who is a woman. He doesn’t want that.  Similarly guys, if you want…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Men

    It’s Not You, It’s Him

    There are a lot of things to consider when you are dating and seeking a partner.  Most articles eagerly point out the obvious like “do you like him,” “are your lifestyles and values compatible?” One question women often overlook that lands them in miserable, unsatisfying relationships is probably more important than any of the others. Does he like women? I’m not talking about his sexual orientation.  I am talking about heterosexual, sexually active, professional, everyday men who just don’t “like” women. They want to have sex with women. But that’s not the same as “liking” women.  You’ve got to wonder (and verify with behavior) if he actually “likes” women. I…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Essay,  Members Only,  Men

    Talk Like a Man

    Dear Men, I’ve got a beef with you.  Listen to me.  You need to talk like a man. Don’t soften your voice or make it higher.  Don’t change your tone for me.  I am not a child or a dog, I am a woman.  I’ve met men who “sweet talk” but their sweet talk is more like “baby talk.” They are “cute.” It makes me sick. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Speak with conviction. Speak from the heart. Use your grown up voice. Look me in the eye. Don’t be cute. I will puke on your cute. If a man is baby talking me and being cute and sweet, he…

  • Fiction,  flash fiction

    He Wasn’t Prepared

    He was prepared for everything else, but not for this. He was prepared for hard work, for sacrifice, for long hours. He was prepared to do what’s right, what’s necessary, what no one else would do. He was prepared to go unnoticed, to get the blame, to go without. He was prepared for a fight, for war, for death. He was prepared to ignore the pain, work through the injuries. He was prepared to never understand why. But, he wasn’t prepared for this. He wasn’t prepared for the softness, like a faint perfume stirring him awake. He wasn’t prepared for this racing heart when he heard her voice. He wasn’t…

  • blog,  Essay,  Life Lessons

    Seven Things A Five Year Old Boy Taught Me About Men

    Some of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned about men have come from raising my five year old son. These are the top seven. 1. He’s not going to change. There may be some slight differences, but barring any major trauma, at their core, they are pretty much the same kind of man at 5 that they are going to be at 50. Their experiences shape how they might express or protect themselves. But a thoughtful, quiet boy will probably be a thoughtful, introspective man. And a rowdy boy will likely be a boisterous, energetic man. So if you think you’re going to make him more outgoing, less rowdy, more…

  • Attraction,  Essay

    Nice Guys, Bad Boys and Good Guys: A Breakdown

    Do you hear women talk about Nice Guys, Bad Boys and Good Guys? We settle for a Nice Guy, we let loose with a Bad Boy, but what we truly want is a Good Guy, and here’s why… Simple explanation of the difference between Nice Guys, Bad Boys and Good Guys Nice Guys Nice Guys only feel comfortable with the woman on the left, and while the one on the right turns him on, she intimidates the hell out of him. The women on the right exist for him in fantasy, porn, and strip clubs. While they excite him sexually, they threaten him intellectually. While he may not admit it,…