• Essay,  Journal,  Mindset

    The Trap

    I had a hell of a week. Actually, I’ve had a hell of a few weeks. To be honest, the past few years haven’t been great. Things culminate. This has happened a few times over the past few years. No need for details but hey, I’m resilient? This last week was one of those boiling points of stress. I felt pulled in many directions. I had very little alone time. People wanted me to attend things with them, chat with them, listen to them. Work was intense, to say the least. I’ve been feeling very run down. The good habits that I have every intention to implement are still just…

  • Essay,  Life Lessons

    We Can Bounce

    When people get out of a tragic or toxic situation, they tend to go a little buck wild. I see it often; they are coming out of chaos, out of repression, out of despair-they have broken free from pain, suffering, confusion and limits. Once they breathe their freedom, they expel their conditioning; they purge their doubts, they reject their insecurities and they live with abandon! It looks like they are out of control. Others, on the sidelines, wag fingers like “oh she’s gone wild.”  They judge as if it were a bad thing.  As if her containment were more admirable than her freedom.  As if open, liberated, balls-to-the-wall living were something she should quit.…

  • Essay,  Journal

    Joy Loves Company

    We all know misery loves company. When we are in misery we want to feel less isolated and alone. We want to know that someone is there who understands or cares about our suffering. We can’t help it. We are human. Joy loves company too. Why do we praise someone’s joy from a distance, as if our participation in it could take some of the joy away? Joy is unlimited. Our participation in the joy of others increases the joy exponentially. We tend to get caught up in the disappointments and tragedy of life. Everyone remembers the shocking accident or the surprise defeat. But life is just as likely to…

  • Essay,  Journal,  Life Lessons,  Mindset

    All or Nothing!

    So in business there’s the “cost of doing business.” It’s not your standard operating costs, overhead, investments that we consider a loss. It’s investing in ideas that don’t pan out, employees that bail after being trained or clients that quit you. There’s the cost to throwing your hat in the ring when the standard award rate is one in three. You lose all the money, sweat and tears spent on two-thirds of your bids and that’s just your cost of doing business. We shrug and accept it. It’s so obvious that no one will argue it. So what’s the cost of dating? For men there’s the cost of dinner, washing…