• blog,  Essay,  Feminism,  Observations on my Species Book,  Pop Culture

    The Divorce Machine

    Society wants you divorced. The very fabric of our social networks support and encourage divorce and many divorces are socially executed in the same way.  It’s not a pretty story, but it’s a common one.  75% of divorces are initiated by women. And in the majority of these divorces, even if the divorce is initiated for innocuous reasons, the divorce will quickly turn into a machine determined to vilify the husband while clearing the wife of any wrongdoing and making her the victim. This may not even be her intention at the beginning, but as soon as the divorce machine gets started, it’s hard if not impossible to stop the gears. Once…

  • blog,  Life Lessons

    Honest Assholes

    Honest people always look like assholes because life isn’t fair, no one is that special, we all screw up and if you’re honest you have to admit it and face up to your flaws, screw ups, mistakes and all the numerous ways you let yourself down and disappoint others. Being accountable for your shit gives you grit, it makes you rough and edgy. Things start to affect you less because once you can take an honest look at yourself and the world, a brutally honest look, where you hold yourself accountable for all your choices big and small, what’s worse than that? That sucks. We are all screwed up. Lies…

  • blog,  Creativity,  Essay,  Pop Culture

    The End of Art, Creativity and Free Speech

    I recently wrote a book review of Roosh V.‘s book, “Free Speech Isn’t Free.” As I noted in my book review, Roosh is well known for his books on how to approach, engage and seduce women and his teachings on game. But he is also infamous from the worldwide media storm he created in the summer of 2015 when he was conducting his worldwide State of Man lecture series and the following Men’s Social Meet-ups in February 2016. These dramatic events and the media response are the basis of his new book. My decision to review Roosh’s book may come as a surprise to you and based on your emails…

  • blog,  Feminism,  Observations on my Species Book,  Pop Culture

    The End of Women

    I get a lot of flack on this blog about my writing about women and female sexuality. I get a lot of angry letters from men who think female sexuality is shameful and evil or should be repressed. I get a lot of angry letters from women who think that my writing about intimacy and vulnerability is counterproductive to showing women as strong and independent. It’s mind-boggling how angry people are about a woman writing about mature, sexual, powerful, healthy women who love men. It’s the new thing to hate, apparently. I’m interested in our human nature, what drives us biologically, emotionally and sexually. The point I try to make in…

  • blog,  Mindset,  Observations on my Species Book

    Don’t Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

    If someone behaves badly and also drinks or takes drugs, there are support groups to help the people deal with their behavior.  They are encouraged not to enable their  behavior which may be outright harmful or subtly harmful and abusive because being mistreated builds up and everyone has a breaking point. If someone has a diagnosed, observable mental illness or  addiction that makes them mean, self-absorbed, causes them to steal or cheat, then they are dealt with and people understand that they are sick.  And again, the people in their lives have support groups and are given guidelines on how to minimize interactions and limit the ways that this person…