• blog,  Essay,  Feminism,  Observations on my Species Book,  Pop Culture

    The Divorce Machine

    Society wants you divorced. The very fabric of our social networks support and encourage divorce and many divorces are socially executed in the same way.  It’s not a pretty story, but it’s a common one.  75% of divorces are initiated by women. And in the majority of these divorces, even if the divorce is initiated for innocuous reasons, the divorce will quickly turn into a machine determined to vilify the husband while clearing the wife of any wrongdoing and making her the victim. This may not even be her intention at the beginning, but as soon as the divorce machine gets started, it’s hard if not impossible to stop the gears. Once…

  • blog,  Essay,  Life Lessons

    We Can Bounce

    When people get out of a tragic or toxic situation, they tend to go a little buck wild. I see it often; they are coming out of chaos, out of repression, out of despair-they have broken free from pain, suffering, confusion and limits. Once they breathe their freedom, they expel their conditioning; they purge their doubts, they reject their insecurities and they live with abandon! It looks like they are out of control. Others, on the sidelines, wag fingers like “oh she’s gone wild.”  They judge as if it were a bad thing.  As if her containment were more admirable than her freedom.  As if open, liberated, balls-to-the-wall living were something she should quit.…

  • blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book

    Relationship Arson

    Are you committing Relationship Arson? Are you unhappy in your relationship and so instead of addressing the changes that need to be made in yourself or working to reignite the spark with your partner or going through the hard process of leaving and potentially being alone are you having an emotional or sexual affair with someone else? I’ve noticed sometimes people can’t muster the strength of will to make necessary changes in their life but they have an urgent need for change. So instead of moving out piece by piece and leaving the house (or their partner) in tact for the next occupant, they burn the whole house down. Only…