• Essay,  Journal,  Mindset

    Living The Dream

    We were talking about the trap. We were talking about the world, society, life, passion, dreams. Easy conversations for us. Topical subject because of the stress I’ve been feeling. We were slowing things down, in conversation by talking about big, intangible things and ides. We were talking about living the dream. We all have a different dream. We all want to live it. Almost none of us are living ours. He’s living the dream, he tells me. He means it. But it sounds funny to hear it. He doesn’t have a jet or a boat or a mansion. In fact, it’s not even that he doesn’t have the luxuries, but…

  • Essay,  Life Lessons

    We Can Bounce

    When people get out of a tragic or toxic situation, they tend to go a little buck wild. I see it often; they are coming out of chaos, out of repression, out of despair-they have broken free from pain, suffering, confusion and limits. Once they breathe their freedom, they expel their conditioning; they purge their doubts, they reject their insecurities and they live with abandon! It looks like they are out of control. Others, on the sidelines, wag fingers like “oh she’s gone wild.”  They judge as if it were a bad thing.  As if her containment were more admirable than her freedom.  As if open, liberated, balls-to-the-wall living were something she should quit.…

  • Essay,  Journal

    Joy Loves Company

    We all know misery loves company. When we are in misery we want to feel less isolated and alone. We want to know that someone is there who understands or cares about our suffering. We can’t help it. We are human. Joy loves company too. Why do we praise someone’s joy from a distance, as if our participation in it could take some of the joy away? Joy is unlimited. Our participation in the joy of others increases the joy exponentially. We tend to get caught up in the disappointments and tragedy of life. Everyone remembers the shocking accident or the surprise defeat. But life is just as likely to…