• Essay,  Mindset

    You Don’t Have To Like Everyone

    We all want to be good people. We want to treat others well and be treated well. We want to be optimistic, tolerant, generous, honorable, agreeable and kind and many other virtues that we would use to describe someone we would admire very much. We want this because it is right, but also because the pain of being rejected because we don’t have these traits is real. We want people to like us. To be liked, we try to follow the golden rule and treat others how we would want to be treated — with patience, tolerance and love. This is how we open ourselves up to abuse. This is how we…

  • Book Reviews,  Essay,  Politics

    Democrat to Deplorable by Jack Murphy (Book Review)

    Jack Murphy’s book Democrat to Deplorable: Why Nine Million Obama Voters Ditched the Democrats and Embraced Donald Trump has done what media pundits, pollsters, psychologists, political experts and fortune tellers failed to do over the past 18 months—it has put into words a coherent, persuasive and compelling explanation of what so many voters saw in Trump, and not just any Trump voter, but the 9 million voters who crossed party lines, leaving their Democrat label behind even when that meant being labeled “Deplorable.” Using his own personal experience, extensive interviews and a detailed survey, Murphy shows how broken campaign promises, backfiring policy decisions, a complex global economy and a changing culture created…

  • Essay,  Mindset,  Politics,  Pop Culture

    Why Kanye West and John Legend’s Friendship is the Best Thing in the World Right Now

    Last week Kanye West blew up Twitter with a series of tweets on creativity, individuality, openness, community and free thought. He’s been silent on Twitter for years but with over 30 million followers, a tweetstorm gets noticed.                 There was nothing controversial about his tweets. In fact, we were all loving them — and Kanye! — and seeing ourselves in his tweets about creativity, individuality, optimism and love. Until we weren’t. Right when Kanye had everyone’s full attention, and our guard was down he dropped a tweet bomb. West Tweeted about Candace Owens, a right-leaning, Trump supporting firebrand personality who is critical of…

  • Essay,  Pop Culture

    Molly Ringwald Revists The Breakfast Club and Totally Forgets What It Was Like To Be A Teen In the Eighties (or Ever)

    Last week, The New Yorker published a personal essay by Molly Ringwald reflecting on the movies of John Hughes through the lens of the current #MeToo movement. #MeToo is a national trend of women and some men who are speaking up about sexual harassment that they have suffered or endured from powerful men who have either had power over their career or just power over their current situation. Unable to speak up at the time of the event, their voices have built upon the momentum of others and there is a tidal wave of stories that are both confession and accusation. John Hughes is famous for directing several films in…

  • Essay,  Journal

    Roll With It

    Did you ever hear that if a drunk person falls down the stairs he or she will sustain far fewer injuries than a sober person?  The reason is that the drunk person is relaxed and therefore more flexible. The sober person, anticipating the fall, will brace him or herself for the fall. She will stiffen and tense up.  As a result, she will tear tight muscles, break bones, and be far more hurt by the fall than the drunk person. I’m not advocating drunkenness. Easy as that may sound as a solution, we all know the other drawbacks.  I am advocating for you to chill the fuck out.  Relax. Loosen…

  • Book Reviews,  Essay

    Social Justice Warrior Handbook by Lisa De Pasquale (Book Review)

    In July, I wrote about how we need to support more artists who lean to the right politically. Culture may be downstream from politics as Andrew Breitbart stated, but politics is also greatly influenced by culture.  The intimate relationship between liberal Hollywood and liberal DC politics has been clear for decades. Using artists as media and cultural influencers has been very successful for recent big-name politicians. Efforts to shake up the establishment politicians with the election of Donald Trump need to be supported and reinforced by new and vibrant creative voices. Additionally, in order to shed the outdated and inaccurate image of conservatives as stodgy curmudgeons, we need to let…

  • Book Reviews,  Essay

    Sallust: Impressive New Translation from Quintus Curtius

    Quintus Curtius is one of my favorite writers. Part of this has to do with who he is as a person. He is one of the last, true Rennaissance Men of modern day. A former marine officer, who then became a lawyer who is also a painter, writer and translator, Quintus Curtius shares his views on discipline, honor, art, politics, philosophy and society on his blog Fortress of the Mind. What is most compelling about Curtius is his ability to blend the intellectual with the everyday. When he offered to send me an advance copy of Sallust, I was thrilled. This translation of  “Conspiracy of Catiline” and “War of Jugurtha” is…

  • Essay,  Journal,  On Writing

    It Sounded Like a Great Idea at the Time

    I’m editing my first book.  I wrote the book as well but I’m in the process of editing it and it’s turning out to be far more work than I expected.  Over the past 4 years, I wrote a series of dating advice articles. Most posts were for women, but some were directed at men.  The articles had more to do with understanding our own and other’s desires and motivations and how to read people than to do with specifics about dating.  Most people know how to plan a date, dress nice, and interact with someone of the opposite sex. What people don’t know anymore is how to interpret someone’s behavior, words…

  • Essay,  Journal

    What If I Never Break The Crystal?

    I was trying to get rid of stuff. STUFF. The Stuff that creeps into the house and takes hold in drawers and corners and on countertops. It hangs in closets and is tossed up on shelves out of reach but it’s not out — OUT — like it should be. It is just out of the way, out of reach, but it is still there. Still everywhere. Clutter. I have a lot of stuff. I’ve lived in my house for twelve years. I’ve raised kids from infants to preteens and have accumulated the stuff of each age: clothes in various sizes and seasons; toys they won’t choke on, toys they…

  • Attraction,  Essay

    Desire is Life

    Desire gives our lives meaning and purpose. Wanting something, or someone, gives our life the spark and push we need to work through the hard parts, wake up in the morning, get excited. Desire is the ignition for everything we care about. We may think having all our needs and desires met at the snap of our fingers would make us happy and fulfilled but the truth is it would make you bored and miserable. We would have to find something new to strive for. We would desire a new desire. Too often we think that achieving our goal is what gives us satisfaction. In fact we take the most…