• blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book,  Social Conditioning,  Women

    He Doesn’t Want What You Want

    Men and women have undeniable similarities in what they want out of life, love and relationships, but how they find and express these desires is very different.  It is my belief that men and women seek a deeply intimate and passionate relationship with a partner.  We want to be with someone who both challenges and comforts us, who supports and encourages us, and also someone who knows when to rein us in, sit us down and remind us to take a break. When it comes to relationships, communication is one place were we are on different paths.  Not our verbal communication or even our non-verbal communication– where we miss the mark is how we…

  • blog,  Mindset,  Women

    How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

    Ladies, One of your most alluring and valuable traits is your softness.  You may not always appreciate these traits in yourself and they may not always serve you, but they are beautiful and should be cherished and protected.  We need more softness in this world and women are the bearers of the softest joys. The way you can see both sides of an issue. They way you root for the underdog. The way you concede to end conflicts. The way your heart aches for the needy and less fortunate.  The way you desire to heal and care for others.  Yes, even the way you cry when you feel so much…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book,  Men,  Women

    Don’t get caught in the Bangzone

    There’s a saying that says the only thing worse than being single is wishing you were.  And I would have to agree that it’s terrible to be in a bad relationship that you know you need to end.  I disagree that it’s horrible to be single.  Being single can be a lot of fun and very rewarding.  But there’s another relationship space, a sort of holding pen, that is worse than being single and just as bad as being in a bad relationship.  It’s called the bangzone. The bangzone is for women the equivalent of the friendzone for men. It is when you are given access to a guy you…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book,  Social Conditioning,  Women

    Stop Being So Damn Accommodating

    One of the worst things women do when trying to snag a man is to make themselves accommodating. They play the cool chick and present themselves as having not many needs, or even the exact same needs as his. It’s completely artificial! Anyone who is authentic can identify and connect with authenticity in someone else. If you are being fake, he can feel it and he will immediately bangzone you. The bangzone for women is similar to the friendzone for men. It’s where your relationship potential has limits because the other person is willing to take what he or she wants but won’t reciprocate and fulfill what you want. If…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Medium,  Women

    She’s Not Moody; She’s Horny!

    Gentlemen, This might sound crazy to you, but bear with me. I want you to start tracking your girlfriend or wife’s menstrual cycle on your smart phone. It’s easy to track on your phone with free apps available through Google Play and the Apple store. I’m not telling you this so that you can show up with tampons and chocolate at just the perfect moment (although that would be pretty awesome too!) but so that you can observe the natural peaks and valleys in her hormones to build a better sex life. If you pay attention to her needs and behavior while tracking her menstrual cycle, you will learn how her…