• Essay,  Women

    Your Feminine Voice

    There are many ways men and women are different. The voice is an obvious example. Men have deep low voices and women have higher, more airy voices. But our voices are actually different in several other, more subtle ways and once you are aware of them, you can learn to use your voice to tap into your femininity, reach his masculine needs and also gut check yourself on some of your worst habits. Women and men use their voices differently. Men basically have two voices: inside voice and outside voice. You could also add their ridiculous falsetto voice they use when roasting each other, but for the most part, they…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Mindset,  Women

    Your Feminine Body

    This is quite possibly the most important essay on femininity I will ever write.  If you do the things I ask you to do in this post, it will begin to change your life, for the better, immediately. You probably won’t want to do these things. Not because they are hard or complicated, but because you will feel foolish. But I can assure you, the truly foolish will let your ego and pride get in the way of performing these exercises and following the direction of what I ask of you in this post.  The wise will participate. It’s your life. Are you an observer? No. Then read every word…

  • Essay,  Women

    Shit Testing. It’s What We Do

    There is not a woman in existence who doesn’t shit test. It’s part of our make up. We are rarely aware, in the midst of a shit test, that we are doing it. It’s organic.  I believe this comes from a woman’s deep need for security.  Due to our natural and biological vulnerabilities we seek protection and security.  Shit tests come out of this chronic insecurity. They serve a purpose for us as we use them to “test the waters” to make sure that what existed before still exists.  More secure women will test their reality, the solidity of the walls, the availability of resources, the protection and comfort of her…

  • Essay,  Women

    Women Have a Deep Need for Security

    Women have a great need for security. It is part of our nature to seek security because we are naturally insecure.  On a survival level we have a subconscious awareness of our small size and weaker physical stature and seek protection. While our need for physical protection to compensate for our vulnerabilities that come from being smaller, pregnancy, frailty, etc may be obvious our need for emotional protection is controversial. Our natural instincts are to seek security because we are naturally insecure to a certain extent. This is not to say that we can not feel confident and secure or even that we can’t develop our own sense of security.…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Women

    Science Continues to Study and Misinterpret Women’s Desires

    This article claims that science backs up a woman’s desire for bad boys then implores men to be “nice” anyway. “In the end, the idea that women want to date bad boys really just reinforces the misogynist’s idea of deceitful women and earnest “nice” men baffled by their lack of dating success. It allows some men to blame and hate women as a means of deflecting attention away from their own shortcomings. So, if you’re looking to science for some advice, it’s simple: be nice.” The problem with articles like this is that the oblivious researchers and readers align “badness” with smoking, criminal behavior, deception, cheating and violence. Then they…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Mindset,  Women

    Ladies, Embrace Your Sexuality Damn it!

    Ladies, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend recently of men knowing women’s bodies better than women do. Women are not taking charge of their own sexuality. For all the talk about empowerment and abandoning shame, it seems that female sexual desire is still misunderstood at best and at worst denied and repressed. Our mothers shepherded society through the sexual revolution giving us more control of our bodies and our sex lives.  I love that we are able to talk about sex more openly and I love that so many of you are enjoying it and feeling as if you have a right to do it whenever and with whoever you want.  You…

  • Essay,  Life Lessons,  Mindset,  Women

    Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

    It’s true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don’t know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren’t. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, asking probing questions. But when it comes down to actually hearing information as it is and then acting on it in an appropriate way, we suck. For example, often when we are dating a guy he will say things like, “You shouldn’t date me, I’m an asshole,” or “I’m not ready for a relationship,” or “I’m not looking for anything serious.” And instead of going,…