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    The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

    There is no art in things left unfinished. There is no value in the incomplete. There is nothing meaningful in the unresolved. There are many things in the unfinished that can be admired: hope, inspiration, creativity, passion, indifference and ideas but not art. Art happens at the finish line. Art is where inspiration meets discipline, where passion meets fortitude, where creativity meets work. Art is when the work is complete and ready for an audience. It is when the artist reaches satisfaction, a place that is beyond exhaustion and knows there is no more work to be done. “I am finished.” I have no doubt there are many amazing words…

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    The Problem with Online Trolls

    If you reach any level of success and have an online presence you are going to have to deal with trolls. Congratulations! On one hand, this is great news! This means your message is getting heard. It also means that your message is clear enough that it has inspired opposition. If the greatest challenge for any writer is to get his or her voice heard through the cacophony online, then the day you start getting trolled because of your writing is the day you know you have broken through the noise. Well done! Are Trolls Dangerous? The problem with online trolls is not that they are dangerous in a physical…

  • blog,  Feminism,  Pop Culture

    Questioning Feminism — The Myth of the Oppressive Patriarchy

    In trying to learn more about feminism I began re-reading the most prominent feminist writers that I had read in my youth. I wanted to understand how my perception of these works had changed now that my attitude toward feminism has changed. At one time, I believed feminism was a cause for improving the lives of women, fighting for equal rights between men and women. Today my impression of feminism is more along the lines of seeing it as an ideology that is dead set on ruining the lives of men while celebrating only the women who support this ideology. Women who disagree with the competitive nature between feminism and…

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    A Case for The Arts

    I read a lot about the benefits of a STEM education. There is a lot of negativity about studying the arts. In a world where making money, having power and gaining status are valued above all else, the arts, appreciation of the arts and creative expression are getting a bad reputation. It’s true, the arts are not great ways to make a living. Your chances of making a stable, plentiful income as a sculptor or even a filmmaker is very low. Those who do make money are in the minority. Even so, there are still very good reasons to learn a craft and find an artistic expression. There are still…

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    The Divorce Machine

    Society wants you divorced. The very fabric of our social networks support and encourage divorce and many divorces are socially executed in the same way.  It’s not a pretty story, but it’s a common one.  75% of divorces are initiated by women. And in the majority of these divorces, even if the divorce is initiated for innocuous reasons, the divorce will quickly turn into a machine determined to vilify the husband while clearing the wife of any wrongdoing and making her the victim. This may not even be her intention at the beginning, but as soon as the divorce machine gets started, it’s hard if not impossible to stop the gears. Once…

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    The End of Art, Creativity and Free Speech

    I recently wrote a book review of Roosh V.‘s book, “Free Speech Isn’t Free.” As I noted in my book review, Roosh is well known for his books on how to approach, engage and seduce women and his teachings on game. But he is also infamous from the worldwide media storm he created in the summer of 2015 when he was conducting his worldwide State of Man lecture series and the following Men’s Social Meet-ups in February 2016. These dramatic events and the media response are the basis of his new book. My decision to review Roosh’s book may come as a surprise to you and based on your emails…

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    The End of Women

    I get a lot of flack on this blog about my writing about women and female sexuality. I get a lot of angry letters from men who think female sexuality is shameful and evil or should be repressed. I get a lot of angry letters from women who think that my writing about intimacy and vulnerability is counterproductive to showing women as strong and independent. It’s mind-boggling how angry people are about a woman writing about mature, sexual, powerful, healthy women who love men. It’s the new thing to hate, apparently. I’m interested in our human nature, what drives us biologically, emotionally and sexually. The point I try to make in…

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    Actually, she divorced you because you didn’t care

    A lot of people have sent me this article and asked for my opinion on it. SHE DIVORCED ME BECAUSE I LEFT DISHES BY THE SINK On one hand, I think this is great. There are some nuggets of wisdom that this man articulates very well that can’t be said enough. “If he KNEW that—if he fully understood this secret she has never explained to him in a way that doesn’t make her sound crazy to him” This is great but this is nothing new. It’s only new to this writer because he is finally listening. It finally matters, because he lost something that he valued, even though he never…