• Creativity,  Essay,  Header Slider,  News,  On Writing

    A Touch of Chaos – Writing from The Edge

    I want to connect with you personally. Social media has made us antisocial. We connect through screens and snippets but not personally. I’m moving away from this as much as possible in a search for real connection and true engagement. Sending an email to you that you can reply to privately is the first step, sending snail mail to Patrons who support me on Patreon is the next step. I write fiction, plays, essays and now personal letters to share my ideas and imaginings. I try every day to maintain the balance between order and chaos to maximize my creative energy to share with you. We all seek and desperately…

  • Essay,  Journal,  On Writing

    It Sounded Like a Great Idea at the Time

    I’m editing my first book.  I wrote the book as well but I’m in the process of editing it and it’s turning out to be far more work than I expected.  Over the past 4 years, I wrote a series of dating advice articles. Most posts were for women, but some were directed at men.  The articles had more to do with understanding our own and other’s desires and motivations and how to read people than to do with specifics about dating.  Most people know how to plan a date, dress nice, and interact with someone of the opposite sex. What people don’t know anymore is how to interpret someone’s behavior, words…

  • Essay,  Journal,  On Writing

    Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

    I’m not a dating advice writer. I write about dating because it is the place where all our social problems intersect with all our personal problems. Where our heart battles our mind. Where our desires compete with our needs. It is where we try to be our best, end up showing our worst and then find a way to accept ourselves, the world and each other AS IS. Other than war, no struggle is as dangerous as passion. Other than divorce, no negotiation is more precarious than seduction. Other than giving birth, no experience will make you feel more alive than falling in love. Other than death, nothing rips us…

  • Essay,  Journal,  Mindset,  On Writing

    My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

    I’ve been writing advice on dating, personal mindset, self-esteem and empowerment for a few years. My advice columns are full of what to me is obvious truths, common sense perspective and a mix of tough and gentle love depending on not much more than what kind of mood I’m in when I’m writing it. My Target Reader is a Fool for Love Most of my advice posts are targeted toward a specific reader who is a very hard-headed fool for love who repeatedly makes bad decisions. She is stubborn and leads with her heart or her nether regions but never — evidence can show time and again — with her brain. This gets her into…

  • Essay,  On Writing

    What I Hate About My Readers

    The one thing I can’t stand about my readers is that you assume everything I write is autobiographical. Maybe not ALL my readers, but the ones who talk to me assume this. And honestly, the rest of you who don’t talk to me probably assume it too but just don’t say anything, so I take it back. This is what I hate about ALL my readers. I hate it. It drives me up the wall. It makes me crazy. And this is why: First Of All When you come to me and ask me if something is about me, you are never really asking. You think you already know the…

  • Essay,  On Writing

    Writing About Sex and Sports

    Sex is one of the hardest subjects for many writers. It can be hard enough to talk about; we tend to make jokes, be evasive, fall into cliché descriptions. We love the subject but we don’t always love talking about it. Writing about it, in detail, is even harder. It’s easy to sound too vulgar or too prudish. It’s common to feel too vulnerable, writing about something that regardless how great or fantastical or fictional your other writing may be, people will assume is your personal history or your fantasies.  We can write science fiction, murder mysteries, gory thrillers and no one will assume you are a murderer but if…

  • Essay,  Journal,  On Writing

    Writer’s Block, First Dates and the Pressure to be Great!

    Most of us put a lot of pressure on ourselves. We strive to be the best, to see the fruits of our labor doing good in the world. We want to make an impact and an impression. And while we will say casually to others that we “can’t be good at everything” to console each other, we carry on putting pressure on ourselves to be “good at everything!” This year I am taking my blog in a new direction, opening up the subject matter to include many of my passions beyond dating. I love to write and I love life so I may as well continue to sharpen my writing…