Category: Mindset

Why Kanye West and John Legend’s Friendship is the Best Thing in the World Right Now

Why Kanye West and John Legend’s Friendship is the Best Thing in the World Right Now

Last week Kanye West blew up Twitter with a series of tweets on creativity, individuality, openness, community and free thought. He’s been silent on Twitter for years but with over 30 million followers, a tweetstorm gets noticed.                 There was nothing controversial about his tweets. In fact, we were all loving them — and Kanye! — and...Read More
My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

I’ve been writing advice on dating, personal mindset, self-esteem and empowerment for a few years. My advice columns are full of what to me is obvious truths, common sense perspective and a mix of tough and gentle love depending on not much more than what kind of mood I’m in when I’m writing it. My Target Reader is a Fool...Read More
Your Feminine Body

Your Feminine Body

This is quite possibly the most important essay on femininity I will ever write.  If you do the things I ask you to do in this post, it will begin to change your life, for the better, immediately. You probably won't want to do these things. Not because they are hard or complicated, but because you will feel foolish. But...Read More
Living The Dream

Living The Dream

We were talking about the trap. We were talking about the world, society, life, passion, dreams. Easy conversations for us. Topical subject because of the stress I’ve been feeling. We were slowing things down, in conversation by talking about big, intangible things and ides. We were talking about living the dream. We all have a different dream. We all want...Read More
Lack of Self Preservation Isn’t A Virtue

Lack of Self Preservation Isn’t A Virtue

Lack of self preservation is not a virtue. If you put others interests so far ahead of yourself that you become vulnerable or victimized, you end up putting not only yourself, but the community in danger.  Every adult should work to ensure they can stand on their own and not weigh down the group. The elderly, the children, the sick, the injured need...Read More
It’s Spring and I’m an Electrical Storm

It’s Spring and I’m an Electrical Storm

I haven't written in a while as I've been going through some personal changes. I've had a need for some re-centering and then redirecting in my life. It's all good but it's taken my focus away from the blog, away from others, and onto myself for a while and so I've been a bit out of touch. Here's the thing,...Read More
Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

I live on the ocean and I've grown up spending a lot of time at the ocean, whether it was the cold waters and shell covered beaches of Massachusetts or the warmer waters and sandy beaches of Florida or the quiet beaches in the Carolinas there is one thing in common and it's that building a house on the water...Read More
How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

As I wrote recently in "Insults Don't Matter" one of the most important skills of a no bullsh!t mindset is the ability to be impervious to insults, attempts at character assassination, name calling and other rat behavior meant to topple the power dynamic leaving you on the losing end. On the flip side, one must also be unaffected by flattery as it...Read More
Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

You Can Walk Through Glass If you woke up one day and found out that something that has the capacity to cause great injury had no effect on you, how would you react? If you realized that, for instance, you could walk through glass without a single scratch, much less the bloody lacerations that would have once torn through your...Read More