• Attraction,  Essay,  Men,  Mindset

    The Power of Erotic Imagination and the Conditioning Effects of Porn

    Many articles will debate the moral issues related to porn. Morality is personal and I don’t want to impose my morality on you any more than I want you to impose yours on me. This article is about how porn interferes with your personal power, infringes on your self-mastery and ultimately has the power to derail your life by conditioning you to want something you don’t really want and dulling your desires through easy satisfaction.  Self-Mastery is True Power “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” Lau Tzu We know that these things are important and that achieving them is…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    It Doesn’t Matter If You’re A Little Ugly

    Men, if you're kind of ugly, don't sweat it. If you've got rough skin a goofy nose and a soft little belly and scars and asymmetrical eyes, no woman of character will mind. But if you lack self-respect, if you waver on your principles, if you make excuses or shy away from responsibility, there's no amount of pretty that can save you.

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    Are Men Threatened by Intelligent Women?

    According to the study mentioned in the article “Men are threatened by intelligent women” by the Independent; “Men are attracted to the idea of dating intelligent women – but don’t actually like the reality of it.” I myself at one time believed this to be true and I’ve spoken with many women who had this suspicion as well.  In the dating scene, to self-identified intelligent women, it appears true that men prefer dating women who aren’t as smart, who don’t have careers, who aren’t an “equal.” I’ve confronted men with this idea and heard rounds of denial that they love smart women and smart women excite them, but the reality is different.…

  • Essay,  Men,  Social Conditioning,  Women

    He Doesn’t Want What You Want

    Men and women have undeniable similarities in what they want out of life, love and relationships, but how they find and express these desires is very different.  It is my belief that men and women seek a deeply intimate and passionate relationship with a partner.  We want to be with someone who both challenges and comforts us, who supports and encourages us, and also someone who knows when to rein us in, sit us down and remind us to take a break. When it comes to relationships, communication is one place were we are on different paths.  Not our verbal communication or even our non-verbal communication– where we miss the mark is how we…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    Being "Nice" Doesn’t Get You Sex

    Here’s a secret that Nice Guys don’t seem to understand.  If you read this and you are thinking this is the most obvious post on the planet then you might be either a bad boy or a good guy.  But there are guys who will read this and think, “well yes that makes sense but…”  If there is a “but” at the end of your thought, this post is for you. Being “nice” doesn’t get you sex.  Doing the dishes, buying flowers, taking a woman to dinner, complimenting her dress, buying her jewelry and getting married are also things that do not get you sex. Being “lucky” doesn’t get you…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    It’s Not You, It’s Him

    There are a lot of things to consider when you are dating and seeking a partner.  Most articles eagerly point out the obvious like “do you like him,” “are your lifestyles and values compatible?” One question women often overlook that lands them in miserable, unsatisfying relationships is probably more important than any of the others. Does he like women? I’m not talking about his sexual orientation.  I am talking about heterosexual, sexually active, professional, everyday men who just don’t “like” women. They want to have sex with women. But that’s not the same as “liking” women.  You’ve got to wonder (and verify with behavior) if he actually “likes” women. I…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    Rejecting the Nice Guy

    It’s no secret I’m no fan of “nice guys.”  I’m not talking about “good” people here. I love good people. In fact, I’m glad– for the sake of common decency and societal calm–that nice guys are nice and polite as a course of their day because grumpy, negative Nelly’s are worse, but as far as dating goes, I’m not going to date a “nice guy.” Nope. Not going to happen. I find “Nice Guys” to be artificial, entitled, self-absorbed and dull. A nice guy spends so much time trying to be who he thinks you want him to be, that he has no idea what he wants or needs. Nice guys…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men,  Women

    Don’t get caught in the Bangzone

    There’s a saying that says the only thing worse than being single is wishing you were.  And I would have to agree that it’s terrible to be in a bad relationship that you know you need to end.  I disagree that it’s horrible to be single.  Being single can be a lot of fun and very rewarding.  But there’s another relationship space, a sort of holding pen, that is worse than being single and just as bad as being in a bad relationship.  It’s called the bangzone. The bangzone is for women the equivalent of the friendzone for men. It is when you are given access to a guy you…