• Essay,  Life Lessons

    We Can Bounce

    When people get out of a tragic or toxic situation, they tend to go a little buck wild. I see it often; they are coming out of chaos, out of repression, out of despair-they have broken free from pain, suffering, confusion and limits. Once they breathe their freedom, they expel their conditioning; they purge their doubts, they reject their insecurities and they live with abandon! It looks like they are out of control. Others, on the sidelines, wag fingers like “oh she’s gone wild.”  They judge as if it were a bad thing.  As if her containment were more admirable than her freedom.  As if open, liberated, balls-to-the-wall living were something she should quit.…

  • Essay,  Life Lessons

    Seven Things A Five Year Old Boy Taught Me About Men

    Some of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned about men have come from raising my five year old son. These are the top seven. 1. He’s not going to change. There may be some slight differences, but barring any major trauma, at their core, they are pretty much the same kind of man at 5 that they are going to be at 50. Their experiences shape how they might express or protect themselves. But a thoughtful, quiet boy will probably be a thoughtful, introspective man. And a rowdy boy will likely be a boisterous, energetic man. So if you think you’re going to make him more outgoing, less rowdy, more…

  • Essay,  Life Lessons,  Mindset

    A Deep Need for Excitement In All Of Us

    Our lifestyles set us up for repetition, redundancy, disappointment. We fear risk and rejection and as a result we suffer from lack of excitement. Our need for excitement as real to our bodies and our health as  healthy food and water.   A lack of excitement will leave us run down, confused, lethargic and sick like a vitamin deficiency. So we will seek it out subconsciously and suffer emotional, even physical, consequences if we don’t have any or enough of it. So, when we do not know how to create healthy excitement in our lives, we settle for whatever we can get. We are hungry for food but we settle for…

  • Dating Advice,  Essay,  Life Lessons,  Mindset

    All or Nothing!

    So in business there’s the “cost of doing business.” It’s not your standard operating costs, overhead, investments that we consider a loss. It’s investing in ideas that don’t pan out, employees that bail after being trained or clients that quit you. There’s the cost to throwing your hat in the ring when the standard award rate is one in three. You lose all the money, sweat and tears spent on two-thirds of your bids and that’s just your cost of doing business. We shrug and accept it. It’s so obvious that no one will argue it. So what’s the cost of dating? For men there’s the cost of dinner, washing…