Category: Life Lessons

Broken is Better

Broken is Better

I've made no secret of my disdain for the "give no f*cks" movement. I understand the premise of not needlessly getting your panties in a bunch over non-issues. It is certainly a valid counterpoint to the perpetually offended, meddling, pearl clutching crowd.  But just as that crowd has gone too far in their self-righteous virtue signalling, the give no f*cks crowd...Read More
Be Careful Who You Let Yourself Love

Be Careful Who You Let Yourself Love

Be careful who you let yourself love. The modern dating scene is filled with takers who will play with your heart, waste your time and string you along, get all their needs met while giving nothing but the hope of something more, maybe, someday, just be patient... Hookup culture, modern feminist ideas of the sexually liberated woman do nothing to...Read More
It’s Spring and I’m an Electrical Storm

It’s Spring and I’m an Electrical Storm

I haven't written in a while as I've been going through some personal changes. I've had a need for some re-centering and then redirecting in my life. It's all good but it's taken my focus away from the blog, away from others, and onto myself for a while and so I've been a bit out of touch. Here's the thing,...Read More
Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

I live on the ocean and I've grown up spending a lot of time at the ocean, whether it was the cold waters and shell covered beaches of Massachusetts or the warmer waters and sandy beaches of Florida or the quiet beaches in the Carolinas there is one thing in common and it's that building a house on the water...Read More
How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

As I wrote recently in "Insults Don't Matter" one of the most important skills of a no bullsh!t mindset is the ability to be impervious to insults, attempts at character assassination, name calling and other rat behavior meant to topple the power dynamic leaving you on the losing end. On the flip side, one must also be unaffected by flattery as it...Read More
Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

It's true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don't know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren't. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, asking probing questions. But when it comes down to actually hearing information as it is...Read More
We Can Bounce

We Can Bounce

When people get out of a tragic or toxic situation, they tend to go a little buck wild. I see it often; they are coming out of chaos, out of repression, out of despair-they have broken free from pain, suffering, confusion and limits. Once they breathe their freedom, they expel their conditioning; they purge their doubts, they reject their insecurities...Read More