• Book Reviews,  Essay,  Feminism

    Three Reasons You Need to Listen to the Audible Version of Free Women, Free Men by Camille Paglia

      I’ve been a fan of Camille Paglia since the summer of 1997 when I sat in the un-air conditioned spare bedroom of my grandmother’s house reading Sexual Personae and wondering at her bold, smart and vibrant tone. The ideas she wrote about were new to me and while I enjoyed the book in my early twenties I can’t say Paglia’s subject matter resonated with me or that I fully understood her concepts until the last few years. I am also a fan of listening to books primarily due to being in a constant time crunch. I can listen in the car or while cleaning, or even through earphones while…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Pop Culture

    Questioning Feminism — The Myth of the Oppressive Patriarchy

    In trying to learn more about feminism I began re-reading the most prominent feminist writers that I had read in my youth. I wanted to understand how my perception of these works had changed now that my attitude toward feminism has changed. At one time, I believed feminism was a cause for improving the lives of women, fighting for equal rights between men and women. Today my impression of feminism is more along the lines of seeing it as an ideology that is dead set on ruining the lives of men while celebrating only the women who support this ideology. Women who disagree with the competitive nature between feminism and…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Mindset,  Women

    Your Feminine Body

    This is quite possibly the most important essay on femininity I will ever write.  If you do the things I ask you to do in this post, it will begin to change your life, for the better, immediately. You probably won’t want to do these things. Not because they are hard or complicated, but because you will feel foolish. But I can assure you, the truly foolish will let your ego and pride get in the way of performing these exercises and following the direction of what I ask of you in this post.  The wise will participate. It’s your life. Are you an observer? No. Then read every word…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Pop Culture

    The Divorce Machine

    Society wants you divorced. The very fabric of our social networks support and encourage divorce and many divorces are socially executed in the same way.  It’s not a pretty story, but it’s a common one.  75% of divorces are initiated by women. And in the majority of these divorces, even if the divorce is initiated for innocuous reasons, the divorce will quickly turn into a machine determined to vilify the husband while clearing the wife of any wrongdoing and making her the victim. This may not even be her intention at the beginning, but as soon as the divorce machine gets started, it’s hard if not impossible to stop the gears. Once…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Pop Culture

    The End of Women

    I get a lot of flack on this blog about my writing about women and female sexuality. I get a lot of angry letters from men who think female sexuality is shameful and evil or should be repressed. I get a lot of angry letters from women who think that my writing about intimacy and vulnerability is counterproductive to showing women as strong and independent. It’s mind-boggling how angry people are about a woman writing about mature, sexual, powerful, healthy women who love men. It’s the new thing to hate, apparently. I’m interested in our human nature, what drives us biologically, emotionally and sexually. The point I try to make in…

  • Essay,  Feminism,  Journal,  Mindset

    Fetch A Beer For Me, Will Ya?

    It was a hot summer day. I was enjoying the sun, friends, sand on my toes and a little music.  Just as I was beginning to shut my eyes to rest them from the bright sun and salt water, a man asked me to grab him a beer off the boat.  I got off my seat in the sand and waded out to the boat, climbed in and got that man a beer.  Happily. When I got back, another woman said, “I can’t believe you’d let him treat you like that. Like you’ll just fetch him what he needs.” “I’m happy to,” I said. And I left it at that…