• blog,  Essay,  Life Lessons,  Mindset

    It’s Not My Problem (Or Yours)

    Your time and energy are two of the most important things you have. Especially if you are a busy person reaching for your goals. There are many things that can drain you: a bad job, bad relationship, illness, etc. These things you have to deal with on some level. Even good things in your life can take time from other priorities. It is worth it, but you have to be mindful of how you are investing your time and energy. But there are many ways people expend energy that are a complete waste of time. Social media is an easy example, but it’s not just scrolling through timelines, many interactions…

  • blog,  Creativity,  Essay,  Pop Culture

    The End of Art, Creativity and Free Speech

    I recently wrote a book review of Roosh V.‘s book, “Free Speech Isn’t Free.” As I noted in my book review, Roosh is well known for his books on how to approach, engage and seduce women and his teachings on game. But he is also infamous from the worldwide media storm he created in the summer of 2015 when he was conducting his worldwide State of Man lecture series and the following Men’s Social Meet-ups in February 2016. These dramatic events and the media response are the basis of his new book. My decision to review Roosh’s book may come as a surprise to you and based on your emails…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Essay

    What is "Game"?

    We’ve all heard dating called a game. It’s a game of cat and mouse. There are players, winners and losers. There are also “rules of the game,” and ways to cheat the game. But there is also another way that the word “game” is used in dating to describe the traits that make a man desirable that may be harder to identify or communicate. “He’s got game” is a common description of a man who does well with women. He attracts them, seduces them, enjoys them. He is the kind of man who has his pick of woman and doesn’t need to conform to their rules and requirements to keep…

  • Essay,  Mindset

    Fail Big or Shut Up

    I was born lucky. Maybe I was born privileged. Maybe I’m blessed.  I like to think I am charmed. Whatever words I use to describe this situation, the truth is that I believe that I have benefited from an abundance of good things that I did not have to work to receive.  I’ve been very, very lucky. And while I have also faced some very bad things, those were never luck. I don’t think so. The very bad things I’ve experienced have always been a result of either very bad decisions on my part or a series of kind of bad decisions on my part.  I’ve been an agent in my own…

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men

    Don’t Ask For Permission

    Relationships are dying. Passion is dying. Seduction is dying.  Men are turning to porn and robots for sexual fulfillment. Women are turning to romance books and vibrators.  And both are opting out of relationships entirely. It’s just become too much trouble to deal with the opposite sex. We’ve become enemies. We resent instead of appreciate each other. It’s horrible!  We are completely out of touch with our nature, our sexuality and each other. We have more options for sexuality and sexual expression these days as taboos have been destroyed, boundaries demolished and limits eradicated. And yet, for the most part, we are sexually unfulfilled. Even in relationships we are seeking…

  • blog,  Dating Advice,  Essay,  Pop Culture

    Actually, she divorced you because you didn’t care

    A lot of people have sent me this article and asked for my opinion on it. SHE DIVORCED ME BECAUSE I LEFT DISHES BY THE SINK On one hand, I think this is great. There are some nuggets of wisdom that this man articulates very well that can’t be said enough. “If he KNEW that—if he fully understood this secret she has never explained to him in a way that doesn’t make her sound crazy to him” This is great but this is nothing new. It’s only new to this writer because he is finally listening. It finally matters, because he lost something that he valued, even though he never…

  • blog,  Essay,  Feminism,  Mindset

    Fetch A Beer For Me, Will Ya?

    It was a hot summer day. I was enjoying the sun, friends, sand on my toes and a little music.  Just as I was beginning to shut my eyes to rest them from the bright sun and salt water, a man asked me to grab him a beer off the boat.  I got off my seat in the sand and waded out to the boat, climbed in and got that man a beer.  Happily. When I got back, another woman said, “I can’t believe you’d let him treat you like that. Like you’ll just fetch him what he needs.” “I’m happy to,” I said. And I left it at that…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Essay,  Men

    Being "Nice" Doesn’t Get You Sex

    Here’s a secret that Nice Guys don’t seem to understand.  If you read this and you are thinking this is the most obvious post on the planet then you might be either a bad boy or a good guy.  But there are guys who will read this and think, “well yes that makes sense but…”  If there is a “but” at the end of your thought, this post is for you. Being “nice” doesn’t get you sex.  Doing the dishes, buying flowers, taking a woman to dinner, complimenting her dress, buying her jewelry and getting married are also things that do not get you sex. Being “lucky” doesn’t get you…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Essay,  Mindset

    Emotional Stability Will Ruin Your Relationship

    Despite all the Martha Stewarts of dating who would like you to believe that the holy grail of a healthy relationship is emotional stability: It’s not. A preoccupation with emotional stability, yours and your partners, will ruin your relationship.  Lazy thinking causes people to think in binary opposition. They posit; “Emotional instability is bad, so emotional stability must be good.” Then someone goes off and writes an article or a book about the virtues of emotional stability simply by comparing it to toxic, abusive, immature, selfish, and downright crazy emotional instability makes some money, talks to Ellen and boom! Suddenly no one wants to be labeled as emotionally unstable and…