• Attraction,  Balcony,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book

    Just Because He’s Dating, Doesn’t Mean He’s Available

    You simply can't take anything for granted. Finding a balance so you stay hopeful and optimistic without being naive and where you are cautious but not cynical is very difficult. But it's worth working to find that balance. Without it you will be like a pinball pouncing from date to date, highlight to heartbreak without any idea how to stop the madness and find the balance you want.

  • blog,  Dating Advice,  Essay,  Pop Culture

    Actually, she divorced you because you didn’t care

    A lot of people have sent me this article and asked for my opinion on it. SHE DIVORCED ME BECAUSE I LEFT DISHES BY THE SINK On one hand, I think this is great. There are some nuggets of wisdom that this man articulates very well that can’t be said enough. “If he KNEW that—if he fully understood this secret she has never explained to him in a way that doesn’t make her sound crazy to him” This is great but this is nothing new. It’s only new to this writer because he is finally listening. It finally matters, because he lost something that he valued, even though he never…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book,  Medium

    Five Reasons to Make Him Wait For Sex

    You’re a grown woman and you can do what you want. I know. I get it! You will never hear me telling you there’s anything wrong with being sexual, and having sex when you want and who you want. These are absolutely personal decisions that you have every right to make on your own and I am not here to judge. I am, however going to give you a few reasons why making him wait, is even better than giving it up. 1. You Can’t Screw Your Way Into A Relationship It has happened, I’m sure, to someone somewhere, but I will still dare to say that you can’t screw…

  • blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book,  Social Conditioning,  Women

    He Doesn’t Want What You Want

    Men and women have undeniable similarities in what they want out of life, love and relationships, but how they find and express these desires is very different.  It is my belief that men and women seek a deeply intimate and passionate relationship with a partner.  We want to be with someone who both challenges and comforts us, who supports and encourages us, and also someone who knows when to rein us in, sit us down and remind us to take a break. When it comes to relationships, communication is one place were we are on different paths.  Not our verbal communication or even our non-verbal communication– where we miss the mark is how we…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Men

    It’s Not You, It’s Him

    There are a lot of things to consider when you are dating and seeking a partner.  Most articles eagerly point out the obvious like “do you like him,” “are your lifestyles and values compatible?” One question women often overlook that lands them in miserable, unsatisfying relationships is probably more important than any of the others. Does he like women? I’m not talking about his sexual orientation.  I am talking about heterosexual, sexually active, professional, everyday men who just don’t “like” women. They want to have sex with women. But that’s not the same as “liking” women.  You’ve got to wonder (and verify with behavior) if he actually “likes” women. I…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book,  Men

    Rejecting the Nice Guy

    It’s no secret I’m no fan of “nice guys.”  I’m not talking about “good” people here. I love good people. In fact, I’m glad– for the sake of common decency and societal calm–that nice guys are nice and polite as a course of their day because grumpy, negative Nelly’s are worse, but as far as dating goes, I’m not going to date a “nice guy.” Nope. Not going to happen. I find “Nice Guys” to be artificial, entitled, self-absorbed and dull. A nice guy spends so much time trying to be who he thinks you want him to be, that he has no idea what he wants or needs. Nice guys…

  • Attraction,  blog,  Dating Advice,  Love is Blind Book

    Ladies, Don't Swipe Left

    Ladies, If you’re on Tinder, you are familiar with swiping left to reject someone from your matches, and right to show interest. It’s easy to make a quick decision based  on appearance but there’s one thing that might be getting in the way of you finding a great guy: his picture face. Many guys just don’t like pictures or think about the camera when it’s on them.  They struggle to find pictures of themselves because they just don’t have that many.  Well, to be honest, outside of giving you a sense of their features, you can’t tell anything about a man from his pictures. Don’t swipe left on the guys…