Month: January 2016

Just Because He’s Dating, Doesn’t Mean He’s Available

Just Because He’s Dating, Doesn’t Mean He’s Available

"Just because he's dating doesn't mean he's single.  Just because he's single doesn't mean he's available. Just because he's available doesn't mean he’s going to want you. Just because he wants you doesn’t mean you should want him.” It’s easy to get caught up in the thrill of dating. After the initial hesitation you may face about getting involved with...Read More
Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

I live on the ocean and I've grown up spending a lot of time at the ocean, whether it was the cold waters and shell covered beaches of Massachusetts or the warmer waters and sandy beaches of Florida or the quiet beaches in the Carolinas there is one thing in common and it's that building a house on the water...Read More
All the Thrills and None of the Bills!

All the Thrills and None of the Bills!

I'm starting a new series where I will tell you ladies about all the men you will meet in this lifetime.  I won't cover all of them, of course, and there will be some differences when you meet them in person.  These are generalizations to keep you attuned to the kinds of men and the kinds of situations that might...Read More
How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

As I wrote recently in "Insults Don't Matter" one of the most important skills of a no bullsh!t mindset is the ability to be impervious to insults, attempts at character assassination, name calling and other rat behavior meant to topple the power dynamic leaving you on the losing end. On the flip side, one must also be unaffected by flattery as it...Read More
You Can Not Trust Your Eyes

You Can Not Trust Your Eyes

She knows that she looks sweet. She looks tender. Pretty. There’s an innocence about mher that inspires you to let down your guard. You want to protect her. How kind. You should know, it’s too late for your protection. There is no part of her that has not suffered wounds. There is no real innocence left. She have seen darkness...Read More
Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

You Can Walk Through Glass If you woke up one day and found out that something that has the capacity to cause great injury had no effect on you, how would you react? If you realized that, for instance, you could walk through glass without a single scratch, much less the bloody lacerations that would have once torn through your...Read More
Writer’s Block, First Dates and the Pressure to be Great!

Writer’s Block, First Dates and the Pressure to be Great!

Most of us put a lot of pressure on ourselves. We strive to be the best, to see the fruits of our labor doing good in the world. We want to make an impact and an impression. And while we will say casually to others that we "can't be good at everything" to console each other, we carry on putting...Read More