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    Love is Blind, Keep your Dating Sharp -Book!

    Love is blind. It’s also dumb, delusional, obsessive, jealous, confused and insecure–especially in the infatuation phase when you are filled with desire, excitement and hope but don’t have anything to confirm if it’s real and lasting. That comes later.  That’s a different book. This book is about that crazy, falling in love, floating on air, freaking out, half-insane phase that plagues you when you are losing your mind over a guy.  Before you completely lose your mind, you need someone to smack you back to your senses. You need this book. This book isn’t here to empower you. You are already empowered. This isn’t a pep talk, your friends can…

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    Bare Naked Writing

    Have you noticed how many writers are publishing marketable books with mass appeal but it’s hard to find writing that really gives you a punch in the gut?  I’m in writing groups that focus on publishing 2 books a year. The quality is shit. There might not be typos, but the writing is superficial and bland.  You aren’t going to read a sentence in 300 pages that stands out and makes you think.  It’s garbage in and garbage out. When I fell in love with reading it wasn’t because I could consume think books, one after the other, with the story brushing past me like walking through a crowd. I…

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    Work-in-Progress

    If you’ve noticed that I have not been publishing as many essays or flash fiction pieces lately, do not worry! It isn’t because I’ve stopped writing. In fact, I’m writing more than ever but I’ve taken on some really big projects! I am writing a play called “Divorce Party,” a novel called “Pleasures of the Damned,” which I am publishing as a serialized novel for my Patreon Supporters, one chapter a month. I am in the final stages of editing a non-fiction book on dating called, “Love is Blind, Keep Your Dating Sharp.” It will be out early 2019.

  • Attraction,  Essay,  Men,  Mindset

    The Power of Erotic Imagination and the Conditioning Effects of Porn

    Many articles will debate the moral issues related to porn. Morality is personal and I don’t want to impose my morality on you any more than I want you to impose yours on me. This article is about how porn interferes with your personal power, infringes on your self-mastery and ultimately has the power to derail your life by conditioning you to want something you don’t really want and dulling your desires through easy satisfaction.  Self-Mastery is True Power “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” Lau Tzu We know that these things are important and that achieving them is…

  • Creativity,  Essay,  Header Slider,  News,  On Writing

    A Touch of Chaos – Writing from The Edge

    I want to connect with you personally. Social media has made us antisocial. We connect through screens and snippets but not personally. I’m moving away from this as much as possible in a search for real connection and true engagement. Sending an email to you that you can reply to privately is the first step, sending snail mail to Patrons who support me on Patreon is the next step. I write fiction, plays, essays and now personal letters to share my ideas and imaginings. I try every day to maintain the balance between order and chaos to maximize my creative energy to share with you. We all seek and desperately…

  • Essay,  Journal,  Mindset

    If You Need to Cry, Cry When You Get to the Top

    A reader recently asked me, “How do you approach life so confidently?” I have been asked this more than once and decided this topic deserved to be answered in an essay. We all build our confidence in different ways. I don’t often share personal stories as I consider myself to be more of an observer and I am less interested in myself than in others, but this demanded a personal answer, so here is my story. Represent Yourself or Others Will Misrepresent You When I was a teen, I was a lot like I am now: outspoken, curious, passionate, and creative. I read as much as I could get my…

  • Essay,  Mindset

    You Don’t Have To Like Everyone

    We all want to be good people. We want to treat others well and be treated well. We want to be optimistic, tolerant, generous, honorable, agreeable and kind and many other virtues that we would use to describe someone we would admire very much. We want this because it is right, but also because the pain of being rejected because we don’t have these traits is real. We want people to like us. To be liked, we try to follow the golden rule and treat others how we would want to be treated — with patience, tolerance and love. This is how we open ourselves up to abuse. This is how we…

  • Book Reviews,  Essay,  Politics

    Democrat to Deplorable by Jack Murphy (Book Review)

    Jack Murphy’s book Democrat to Deplorable: Why Nine Million Obama Voters Ditched the Democrats and Embraced Donald Trump has done what media pundits, pollsters, psychologists, political experts and fortune tellers failed to do over the past 18 months—it has put into words a coherent, persuasive and compelling explanation of what so many voters saw in Trump, and not just any Trump voter, but the 9 million voters who crossed party lines, leaving their Democrat label behind even when that meant being labeled “Deplorable.” Using his own personal experience, extensive interviews and a detailed survey, Murphy shows how broken campaign promises, backfiring policy decisions, a complex global economy and a changing culture created…

  • Essay,  Mindset,  Politics,  Pop Culture

    Why Kanye West and John Legend’s Friendship is the Best Thing in the World Right Now

    Last week Kanye West blew up Twitter with a series of tweets on creativity, individuality, openness, community and free thought. He’s been silent on Twitter for years but with over 30 million followers, a tweetstorm gets noticed.                 There was nothing controversial about his tweets. In fact, we were all loving them — and Kanye! — and seeing ourselves in his tweets about creativity, individuality, optimism and love. Until we weren’t. Right when Kanye had everyone’s full attention, and our guard was down he dropped a tweet bomb. West Tweeted about Candace Owens, a right-leaning, Trump supporting firebrand personality who is critical of…