Tag: relationships

What I Know About Love

If I’ve learned anything at all about love, it’s that it’s just like childbirth. You can read as many books about the subject as you want with the hope it’s going to prepare you but once it hits, there’s nothing you can do to stop […]

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

It’s true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don’t know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren’t. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, […]

He Doesn’t Want What You Want

He Doesn’t Want What You Want

Men and women have undeniable similarities in what they want out of life, love and relationships, but how they find and express these desires is very different.  It is my belief that men and women seek a deeply intimate and passionate relationship with a partner.  We want […]

It’s Not You, It’s Him

It’s Not You, It’s Him

There are a lot of things to consider when you are dating and seeking a partner.  Most articles eagerly point out the obvious like “do you like him,” “are your lifestyles and values compatible?” One question women often overlook that lands them in miserable, unsatisfying […]

Emotional Stability Will Ruin Your Relationship

Emotional Stability Will Ruin Your Relationship

Despite all the Martha Stewarts of dating who would like you to believe that the holy grail of a healthy relationship is emotional stability: It’s not. A preoccupation with emotional stability, yours and your partners, will ruin your relationship.  Lazy thinking causes people to think […]

She’s Not Moody; She’s Horny!

She’s Not Moody; She’s Horny!

Gentlemen, This might sound crazy to you, but bear with me. I want you to start tracking your girlfriend or wife’s menstrual cycle on your smart phone. It’s easy to track on your phone with free apps available through Google Play and the Apple store. […]

He Wasn't Prepared

He was prepared for everything else, but not for this. He was prepared for hard work, for sacrifice, for long hours. He was prepared to do what’s right, what’s necessary, what no one else would do. He was prepared to go unnoticed, to get the […]

A Deep Need for Excitement In All Of Us

A Deep Need for Excitement In All Of Us

Our lifestyles set us up for repetition, redundancy, disappointment. We fear risk and rejection and as a result we suffer from lack of excitement. Our need for excitement as real to our bodies and our health as  healthy food and water.   A lack of excitement […]

The Lie of Unconditional Love

We are all flawed. We all have our crap and our hangups and our baggage. I used to believe that to love fully I had to accept someone for just who they are, good or bad. Now I say bullshit. Like this.. BULLSHIT! Don’t insult […]

Relationship Arson

Are you committing Relationship Arson? Are you unhappy in your relationship and so instead of addressing the changes that need to be made in yourself or working to reignite the spark with your partner or going through the hard process of leaving and potentially being […]