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Two Nasty Habits Everyone Has That Sabotage All Your Dates

Two Nasty Habits Everyone Has That Sabotage All Your Dates

There are so many singles in the dating world. Not only are there numerous singles, but there are also singles who have been single for years. Years and years. Many years. So. Many. Years. These aren’t single people who choose to be single, or who […]

Three Reasons You Need to Listen to the Audible Version of Free Women, Free Men by Camille Paglia

Three Reasons You Need to Listen to the Audible Version of Free Women, Free Men by Camille Paglia

I’ve been a fan of Camille Paglia since the summer of 1997 when I sat in the un-air conditioned spare bedroom of my grandmother’s house reading Sexual Personae and wondering at her bold, smart and vibrant tone. The ideas she wrote about were new to […]

The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

There is no art in things left unfinished. There is no value in the incomplete. There is nothing meaningful in the unresolved. There are many things in the unfinished that can be admired: hope, inspiration, creativity, passion, indifference and ideas but not art. Art happens […]

Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

I’m not a dating advice writer. I write about dating because it is the place where all our social problems intersect with all our personal problems. Where our heart battles our mind. Where our desires compete with our needs. It is where we try to […]

The Problem with Online Trolls

The Problem with Online Trolls

If you reach any level of success and have an online presence you are going to have to deal with trolls. Congratulations! On one hand, this is great news! This means your message is getting heard. It also means that your message is clear enough […]

Questioning Feminism — The Myth of the Oppressive Patriarchy

Questioning Feminism — The Myth of the Oppressive Patriarchy

In trying to learn more about feminism I began re-reading the most prominent feminist writers that I had read in my youth. I wanted to understand how my perception of these works had changed now that my attitude toward feminism has changed. At one time, […]

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

I’ve been writing advice on dating, personal mindset, self-esteem and empowerment for a few years. My advice columns are full of what to me is obvious truths, common sense perspective and a mix of tough and gentle love depending on not much more than what […]

Your Feminine Voice

Your Feminine Voice

There are many ways men and women are different. The voice is an obvious example. Men have deep low voices and women have higher, more airy voices. But our voices are actually different in several other, more subtle ways and once you are aware of […]

Impossible Clown Beauty

Impossible Clown Beauty

If imitation is flattery, the cartoons must be so proud. We are flawless beauty robots lacking individuality so we can imitate an extreme caricature of the female while we perform our lives instead of living them.

Your Feminine Body

Your Feminine Body

This is quite possibly the most important essay on femininity I will ever write.  If you do the things I ask you to do in this post, it will begin to change your life, for the better, immediately. You probably won’t want to do these […]