Mindset

It's Spring and I'm an Electrical Storm

I am going to show my broken places while sharing how we can carve a new path of self-reliance without shutting opportunities for love and connection. We need to learn to identify who truly deserves our attachment, trust, commitment and loyalty and then give ourselves freely. Not the other way around. We’ve been giving ourselves freely to those who don’t deserve us and then wondering why we are not appreciated, not valued, not loved and protected.

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

So much in life is a gamble. While you can do your best to stack the odds in your benefit, there are simply no guarantees. Natural disaster, human error, misinformation. Even with the best preparation and intentions, things don’t always go as planned.

How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

If information provokes a strong emotional reaction that challenges you and makes you uncomfortable. Don’t ignore it. Explore it!

Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

You Can Walk Through Glass If you woke up one day and found out that something that has the capacity to cause great injury had no effect on you, how would you react? If you realized that, for instance, you could walk through glass without […]

Ladies, Embrace Your Sexuality Damn it!

Ladies, Embrace Your Sexuality Damn it!

Ladies, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend recently of men knowing women’s bodies better than women do. Women are not taking charge of their own sexuality. For all the talk about empowerment and abandoning shame, it seems that female sexual desire is still misunderstood at best and […]

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

It’s true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don’t know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren’t. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, […]

Fetch A Beer For Me, Will Ya?

It was a hot summer day. I was enjoying the sun, friends, sand on my toes and a little music.  Just as I was beginning to shut my eyes to rest them from the bright sun and salt water, a man asked me to grab […]

How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

Ladies, One of your most alluring and valuable traits is your softness.  You may not always appreciate these traits in yourself and they may not always serve you, but they are beautiful and should be cherished and protected.  We need more softness in this world […]

Don’t Put Up With Bad Behavior

Don’t Put Up With Bad Behavior

First things first; because whenever I post something, people like to point out all the exceptions and that is really such a drag, you should consider getting over yourself.  😉 Disclaimer for the reactive types: This post is not about abuse of any kind. It’s […]

Don't Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

If someone behaves badly and also drinks or takes drugs, there are support groups to help the people deal with their behavior.  They are encouraged not to enable their  behavior which may be outright harmful or subtly harmful and abusive because being mistreated builds up […]