Mindset

Roll With It

Roll With It

Did you ever hear that if a drunk person falls down the stairs he or she will sustain far fewer injuries than a sober person?  The reason is that the drunk person is relaxed and therefore more flexible. The sober person, anticipating the fall, will […]

What If I Never Break The Crystal?

What If I Never Break The Crystal?

I was trying to get rid of stuff. STUFF. The Stuff that creeps into the house and takes hold in drawers and corners and on countertops. It hangs in closets and is tossed up on shelves out of reach but it’s not out — OUT […]

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

I’ve been writing advice on dating, personal mindset, self-esteem and empowerment for a few years. My advice columns are full of what to me is obvious truths, common sense perspective and a mix of tough and gentle love depending on not much more than what […]

You Can’t "Red Pill" Someone Else

You Can’t "Red Pill" Someone Else

The red pill has entered the common lexicon as a term. Many are confused by what it means and just as many are confused about how it happens.  I wrote about what “red pill” means to me here, “What is the Red Pill“.  No, I […]

It's Not My Problem (Or Yours)

Your time and energy are two of the most important things you have. Especially if you are a busy person reaching for your goals. There are many things that can drain you: a bad job, bad relationship, illness, etc. These things you have to deal […]

Lack of Self Preservation Isn’t A Virtue

Lack of Self Preservation Isn’t A Virtue

Lack of self preservation is not a virtue. If you put others interests so far ahead of yourself that you become vulnerable or victimized, you end up putting not only yourself, but the community in danger.  Every adult should work to ensure they can stand on their own […]

Just Get Started

When I was a kid one of my mother’s friends lost her husband to a heart attack. She had young kids, younger than my brother and myself, no job, and was suddenly alone.  When tragedy or illness strikes and you are a parent, you do […]

When You Make Bad Choices YOU Are To Blame

Empowerment is a beautiful word. It sounds strong and admirable. It sounds sturdy and noble. It means you have power and the will and ability to execute things.  It means you can impact your world and have control. But lately this word has been thrown […]

Fail Big or Shut Up

I was born lucky. Maybe I was born privileged. Maybe I’m blessed.  I like to think I am charmed. Whatever words I use to describe this situation, the truth is that I believe that I have benefited from an abundance of good things that I did […]

How to Stop Feeling Guilty and Start Being A Badass

How to Stop Feeling Guilty and Start Being A Badass

I read an article on Elite Daily last week about how women feel guilty 97% of the time. I found this startling since I also personally find that women blame others 97% of the time.  In this modern world, women are angry. They are angry […]