Category: Mindset

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

I live on the ocean and I've grown up spending a lot of time at the ocean, whether it was the cold waters and shell covered beaches of Massachusetts or the warmer waters and sandy beaches of Florida or the quiet beaches in the Carolinas there is one thing in common and it's that building a house on the water...Read More
How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

As I wrote recently in "Insults Don't Matter" one of the most important skills of a no bullsh!t mindset is the ability to be impervious to insults, attempts at character assassination, name calling and other rat behavior meant to topple the power dynamic leaving you on the losing end. On the flip side, one must also be unaffected by flattery as it...Read More
Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

You Can Walk Through Glass If you woke up one day and found out that something that has the capacity to cause great injury had no effect on you, how would you react? If you realized that, for instance, you could walk through glass without a single scratch, much less the bloody lacerations that would have once torn through your...Read More
Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

It's true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don't know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren't. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, asking probing questions. But when it comes down to actually hearing information as it is...Read More
How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

Ladies, One of your most alluring and valuable traits is your softness.  You may not always appreciate these traits in yourself and they may not always serve you, but they are beautiful and should be cherished and protected.  We need more softness in this world and women are the bearers of the softest joys. The way you can see both...Read More
Don’t Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

Don’t Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

If someone behaves badly and also drinks or takes drugs, there are support groups to help the people deal with their behavior.  They are encouraged not to enable their  behavior which may be outright harmful or subtly harmful and abusive because being mistreated builds up and everyone has a breaking point. If someone has a diagnosed, observable mental illness or...Read More
A Deep Need for Excitement In All Of Us

A Deep Need for Excitement In All Of Us

Our lifestyles set us up for repetition, redundancy, disappointment. We fear risk and rejection and as a result we suffer from lack of excitement. Our need for excitement as real to our bodies and our health as  healthy food and water.   A lack of excitement will leave us run down, confused, lethargic and sick like a vitamin deficiency. So we...Read More
All or Nothing!

All or Nothing!

So in business there's the "cost of doing business." It's not your standard operating costs, overhead, investments that we consider a loss. It's investing in ideas that don't pan out, employees that bail after being trained or clients that quit you. There's the cost to throwing your hat in the ring when the standard award rate is one in three....Read More