Life Lessons

Just Because He's Dating, Doesn't Mean He's Available

You simply can’t take anything for granted. Finding a balance so you stay hopeful and optimistic without being naive and where you are cautious but not cynical is very difficult. But it’s worth working to find that balance. Without it you will be like a pinball pouncing from date to date, highlight to heartbreak without any idea how to stop the madness and find the balance you want.

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

So much in life is a gamble. While you can do your best to stack the odds in your benefit, there are simply no guarantees. Natural disaster, human error, misinformation. Even with the best preparation and intentions, things don’t always go as planned.

All the Thrills and None of the Bills!

All the Thrills and None of the Bills!

Eventually, there comes a time when the bills are due in your relationship. The hard stuff, the grown up stuff. The stuff that was taking priority with you and your husband that made you feel neglected and alone. We’ve all got bills. And even our relationships have to pay the bills.

How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

If information provokes a strong emotional reaction that challenges you and makes you uncomfortable. Don’t ignore it. Explore it!

Ladies, Embrace Your Sexuality Damn it!

Ladies, Embrace Your Sexuality Damn it!

Ladies, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend recently of men knowing women’s bodies better than women do. Women are not taking charge of their own sexuality. For all the talk about empowerment and abandoning shame, it seems that female sexual desire is still misunderstood at best and […]

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

It’s true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don’t know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren’t. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, […]

Let's Get Dirty

There is nothing better for my soul than gardening.  The sun is too bright for me to see the screen of my phone so I keep it inside.  The fresh air kisses my skin.  I get on my knees with my floral printed gloves and […]

Why You Should Never Go Dutch on a Date

Why You Should Never Go Dutch on a Date

Ladies, We’ve gotten to know each other over the past year of this blog and so it will come as no surprise to you that I have a strong opinion and I’m not going to be very delicate sharing it.  You are not supposed to […]

Trauma and Emotional Toxins

Traumatic or intense events are toxic. They get into every part of our physical body, our emotional sphere and our head space. And like any other toxin or poison, it takes time to expel them. Some of it comes out as tears, some as sweat, […]

We Can Bounce

When people get out of a tragic or toxic situation, they tend to go a little buck wild. I see it often; they are coming out of chaos, out of repression, out of despair-they have broken free from pain, suffering, confusion and limits. Once they […]