Journal

Roll With It

Roll With It

Did you ever hear that if a drunk person falls down the stairs he or she will sustain far fewer injuries than a sober person?  The reason is that the drunk person is relaxed and therefore more flexible. The sober person, anticipating the fall, will […]

It Sounded Like a Great Idea at the Time

It Sounded Like a Great Idea at the Time

I’m editing my first book.  I wrote the book as well but I’m in the process of editing it and it’s turning out to be far more work than I expected.  Over the past 4 years, I wrote a series of dating advice articles. Most posts were […]

I Can’t Believe I’m About To Tell You My Biggest Fear

I Can’t Believe I’m About To Tell You My Biggest Fear

Writing is pretty easy for me. I have never experienced writer’s block. In fact, I have never looked at a blank page for long. I can always come up with ideas and things I want to write about. In fact, I have a backlog of […]

I Don’t Want To Write About Politics

I Don’t Want To Write About Politics

(Part One of Three) I’ve never been particularly political. I like arts, humanities, and people. I like stories and the individual. I like the underdog, personal moments, intimacy, and vulnerability. None of these are a part of politics. These are the conditions that politics can’t sustain as […]

Why Do Conservative Men Look So Bedraggled?

Why Do Conservative Men Look So Bedraggled?

In the April 22, 2016 edition of the Federalist, writer Henry Scanlon writes about his observations that conservative women are more beautiful, stylish and poised than their liberal counterparts. He’s careful to qualify his statements with credentials like “I spent years in the photography business, which […]

What If I Never Break The Crystal?

What If I Never Break The Crystal?

I was trying to get rid of stuff. STUFF. The Stuff that creeps into the house and takes hold in drawers and corners and on countertops. It hangs in closets and is tossed up on shelves out of reach but it’s not out — OUT […]

The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

There is no art in things left unfinished. There is no value in the incomplete. There is nothing meaningful in the unresolved. There are many things in the unfinished that can be admired: hope, inspiration, creativity, passion, indifference and ideas but not art. Art happens […]

Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

I’m not a dating advice writer. I write about dating because it is the place where all our social problems intersect with all our personal problems. Where our heart battles our mind. Where our desires compete with our needs. It is where we try to […]

The Problem with Online Trolls

The Problem with Online Trolls

If you reach any level of success and have an online presence you are going to have to deal with trolls. Congratulations! On one hand, this is great news! This means your message is getting heard. It also means that your message is clear enough […]

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

I’ve been writing advice on dating, personal mindset, self-esteem and empowerment for a few years. My advice columns are full of what to me is obvious truths, common sense perspective and a mix of tough and gentle love depending on not much more than what […]