Category: Essay

Go Forth: A Journey South by Goldmund (Book Review)

Go Forth: A Journey South by Goldmund (Book Review)

Go Forth: A Journey South by Goldmund is a quick and dirty book about his travels to Oaxaca Mexico to "see the beautiful sights and enjoy the beautiful women." His trip, and the book, do not disappoint as he achieves both. Goldmund's narrative style is simple and straightforward with impeccable timing when highlighting the irony in female behavior.  His style...Read More
Women Have a Deep Need for Security

Women Have a Deep Need for Security

Women have a great need for security. It is part of our nature to seek security because we are naturally insecure.  On a survival level we have a subconscious awareness of our small size and weaker physical stature and seek protection. While our need for physical protection to compensate for our vulnerabilities that come from being smaller, pregnancy, frailty, etc...Read More
Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

Never Give Up More than You’re Willing to Lose

I live on the ocean and I've grown up spending a lot of time at the ocean, whether it was the cold waters and shell covered beaches of Massachusetts or the warmer waters and sandy beaches of Florida or the quiet beaches in the Carolinas there is one thing in common and it's that building a house on the water...Read More
How to Defuse the Power of Words

How to Defuse the Power of Words

As I wrote recently in "Insults Don't Matter" one of the most important skills of a no bullsh!t mindset is the ability to be impervious to insults, attempts at character assassination, name calling and other rat behavior meant to topple the power dynamic leaving you on the losing end. On the flip side, one must also be unaffected by flattery as it...Read More
Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

Insults Don’t Matter and Neither Does Flattery

You Can Walk Through Glass If you woke up one day and found out that something that has the capacity to cause great injury had no effect on you, how would you react? If you realized that, for instance, you could walk through glass without a single scratch, much less the bloody lacerations that would have once torn through your...Read More
Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

Women Are Needy and Terrible Listeners

It's true.  Women are terrible listeners. I don't know how we got the reputation for being good listeners because we aren't. Not even a little.  I guess we are good at all the peripheral signals of listening: eye contact, nodding, sympathetic sighs, touching a hand, asking probing questions. But when it comes down to actually hearing information as it is...Read More
It’s Not You, It’s Him

It’s Not You, It’s Him

There are a lot of things to consider when you are dating and seeking a partner.  Most articles eagerly point out the obvious like "do you like him," "are your lifestyles and values compatible?" One question women often overlook that lands them in miserable, unsatisfying relationships is probably more important than any of the others. Does he like women? I’m...Read More
How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

How To Stay Soft Through Hard Times

Ladies, One of your most alluring and valuable traits is your softness.  You may not always appreciate these traits in yourself and they may not always serve you, but they are beautiful and should be cherished and protected.  We need more softness in this world and women are the bearers of the softest joys. The way you can see both...Read More
Don’t Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

Don’t Confuse Indifference Alley with the High Road

If someone behaves badly and also drinks or takes drugs, there are support groups to help the people deal with their behavior.  They are encouraged not to enable their  behavior which may be outright harmful or subtly harmful and abusive because being mistreated builds up and everyone has a breaking point. If someone has a diagnosed, observable mental illness or...Read More