Month: April 2017

The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

The Art of Finishing Things, A Meditation on Writing and the Paintings of Lia Porto

There is no art in things left unfinished. There is no value in the incomplete. There is nothing meaningful in the unresolved. There are many things in the unfinished that can be admired: hope, inspiration, creativity, passion, indifference and ideas but not art. Art happens […]

Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

Why I’m Not a Dating Advice Writer

I’m not a dating advice writer. I write about dating because it is the place where all our social problems intersect with all our personal problems. Where our heart battles our mind. Where our desires compete with our needs. It is where we try to […]

The Problem with Online Trolls

The Problem with Online Trolls

If you reach any level of success and have an online presence you are going to have to deal with trolls. Congratulations! On one hand, this is great news! This means your message is getting heard. It also means that your message is clear enough […]

Questioning Feminism — The Myth of the Oppressive Patriarchy

Questioning Feminism — The Myth of the Oppressive Patriarchy

In trying to learn more about feminism I began re-reading the most prominent feminist writers that I had read in my youth. I wanted to understand how my perception of these works had changed now that my attitude toward feminism has changed. At one time, […]

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

My Advice Isn’t Special Because You Aren’t Special

I’ve been writing advice on dating, personal mindset, self-esteem and empowerment for a few years. My advice columns are full of what to me is obvious truths, common sense perspective and a mix of tough and gentle love depending on not much more than what […]