Be careful who you let yourself love. The modern dating scene is filled with takers who will play with your heart, waste your time and string you along, get all their needs met while giving nothing but the hope of something more, maybe, someday, just be patient…
Hookup culture, modern feminist ideas of the sexually liberated woman do nothing to empower women and everything to rob her of her advantage in negotiating a romantic connection.
Women hold the key to sex. Men hold the key to commitment. But women have been brainwashed into believing they can throw away their key and live a fabulous, “independent” adventure.
Instead, expect to be used, taken for granted, have your time, energy and emotional resources wasted. You can even expect to lose money in the process since you are so “strong and independent” you are expected to go Dutch.
But don’t blame men for this. It’s human nature to get your needs fulfilled with minimal stress and effort. If someone gave you $10,000 would you say, “no,no, I will have to work for that, $25 an hour.”
Instead blame the kid gloves used when talking to women. It’s all “empowerment” fluff. Be you! Do you! You deserve a prince! You’re perfect just the way you are!
Bullshit. Its all lies. You get what you deserve. Every time. And if you choose to ignore the truth because it makes you feel bad or it makes life harder or doesn’t line up with how you “want” to see the world then you will keep getting the same thing.
People are selfish and lazy. All of us. Being someone of character who invests in others is hard work. If you never give yourself you never know how hard it is to give and how devastating it is to find it was all for nothing. Just a distraction. A good time!
Telling the truth is hard. It’s isolating. You will have many sunny day friends if you tell people what they want to hear. If you never tell the truth you don’t know how hard it is to disappoint someone, to be accountable, to make amends.
It seems easy and fun to live for today with no strings and no commitments. You are so liberated and free! Hashtag feminism! Hashtag empowerment! Hashtag glam filter instagram bullshit.
But when the shit hits the fan. You get hurt, your ass widens, your children rebel, your job shutters, who will be for you then?
It doesn’t matter how much fun you had at concerts, how great you are in bed, how cute you look in blue jeans, how much you gave or how hard you loved, when the shit hits the fan you can watch your friends and lovers scatter to greener pastures wishing you the best of luck and sending prayers and good vibes as they high tail it to the next fun concert with the next cute girl who wants to believe she means more than a good time.
It’s a cycle of lies. The men eat and fuck and sleep like kings. The women will die alone cuddled up to instagram accounts filled with empowerment slogans